Forgive & Forget

I'm not the kind of person who can easily forgive people who has hurt me, but I'm also not the kind of person who will do something or say something to beat back, I'd rather ignore everything and try my best to forget though I know I can't or I might need a really long time for it. As time goes by, I somehow realized that we can only forget those people who hurt us by forgiving them.

Forgiving is notoriously difficult, even myself is still in the state of learning how to forgive. Just like what people always say, stop focusing on the mistakes that someone has done, and try to recall his/her good side. When you can truly forgive someone, you're actually moving a big step forward. Let things go, thanks people who hurt you for that experience and tie no weights to your ankles. Those who are able to forgive is really brave, this is what I can say from what I've experienced.

By the way, forgiving is not forgetting, it's just the first step to let go of the hurt. It takes more time to forget because people that could ever hurt you is always the one that you care so much. Since you have already took the first step to forgive, if you still want that person in your life, forgiving is already enough because you still love them and you will then slowly forget the mistakes they did. If you realized that you don't need that person anymore or he/she is just not the cup of your tea, forget and move on.

On the other hand, if the people who hurts you is not the people that you care or he/she is just an enemy of you who hates you for no reason or maybe because of pure jealousy, forgive them. Forgive all who have offended you, not for them but for yourself. Nothing annoys them so much than forgiving them, live your life better. Do remember to forget about them, because there's no point to remember them.

The first to forgive is the strongest, the first to forget is the happiest. =)